since i mentioned induced liking...

Sometimes you think you like someone but you feel like something’s missing. You find that missing thing in someone else but then now this new person is missing something too. In the end you realize everyone will miss something. So what are you willing to miss?

Confused? I hope you are… because I am too…haha

Yet amidst all the confusion about how to quantify or qualify an actual attraction, one thing is for sure. You can’t fake that kind of concern for another person. By “that kind”, I mean the special kind. It’s the kind where you always end up thinking about that person subconsciously. You don’t have to purposely think about her. You just do. You see a funny situation and you want to share with her because you want to make her laugh. You see a nice shirt and you think about buying it for him. It’s these kinds of things you know you can trust to be real amidst all the ambiguities that come with attraction.

So perhaps to fit some sort of equation, although I know there is no such thing as logic for love, maybe real like is to be attracted to AND feel that kind of concern for someone.

I even wonder if that kind of effortless concern alone is called love. Maybe an attraction isn’t necessary. I certainly find it hard to imagine doing all that for someone you only see as a friend. But maybe I don’t know enough.

I think sometimes you want to like someone but your fear of knowing it may end terribly stops you from going ahead. But then again, if you feel such concern for that person, wouldn’t not being with her be even more painful?

So in the end how do you know the difference between induced liking and real liking?
If after a long arduous chasing process and a few outings, the girl realizes how good the guy is to her and can imagine herself to be treated in that way by that person then obviously it’s not induced. If however, you like someone just because nobody has treated you this well before and you fear you cannot find someone else better then please don’t get together with him.

Bottom line is: have you ever thought about him when there was no good reason to? If the answer is yes, then all you have to decide is whether you want to play hard to get just a little bit longer or end his agony now.